Some people find their comfort zones and refuse to budge from that spot. Even after that comfort zone has withered like summer’s flowers to the frost. They hold a belief that nothing else will work and causes them to dig in their heels to stay. It’s like living a death rather than living a life.
It’s exasperating trying to talk to someone in this state. Nothing you say will sway them. What’s a friend to do?
I fear change so I understand the other side of what you are saying too. I try to take advice given, but I really hate change. Once I am able to see that the whole world isn’t going to end when I change, I accept thing easy. Maybe you could find a way of doing that for your friend?
Oh, I hate change, too. I think most people dislike it and fear it. Sometimes I’ve voluntarily made changes and other times I’ve been forced to make changes. In both cases it’s always been for the better, although I often didn’t/couldn’t see it at the time.
Other times, I’ve flailed my arms thinking I have to make a big change, but not knowing exactly what. And in those cases all that was needed was a small shift everything was fixed.
I think without some amount of change, atrophy sets in. Often the chaos of life keeps that from happening.
You’re right. The world doesn’t end.
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Not much. I’ve found that over time, you can have an effect by being a good example, and also by encouraging them when the first “what if” sprouts come up (and taking it one step at a time). But in terms of an immediate effect, it’s really hard. No one, especially the stubborn type, wants to feel “preached at” or forcibly have their nose shoved in something they don’t want to see.
Yeah, that’s been my experience.
Some changes are forced upon us, and we have no choice but to either adapt, or let it affect us negatively.
Personal change has to be wanted, accepted and in some cases fought for. We can talk and point out to the other, but only they can embrace it and make it happen.
The really hard part is to stand back and wait; just be there, and allow to happen what will.
“The really hard part is to stand back and wait; just be there, and allow to happen what will.”
Yes, that is the hardest part and requires infinite patience, because nothing may happen.
I call this loving the person…not the potential.
My first reaction would be to bring out the Stick of Enlightenment-read: baseball bat.
Often, because of the exasperation you describe, I find it almost better to step away. A sort of sink or swim proposition.
Entirely agree.